Just Being Me

“I stood trying to find the words to explain my thoughts and action. As so

often was the case before, my mind was caught in the trap of the past

and the present. Having tried before to justify my correct and healthy

actions to the unhealthy chaos creator standing in front of me, my mind

recalled how very rare it was for my justification to “win” them over. I

was not eager to go that road again. I didn’t want to try to convince this

unconvincable controller that I didn’t want to be controlled or changed

or to explain well founded reasoning. I just wanted to be me.

So, that was my response to the request made of why I did what I did,

“Just being me.”

Their response was “What does that mean.”

“I’m just being me.”

“So your ok with having done this?”

“Just being me.”

“ Well, that’s stupid!”

“Just being me.”

“So you’re ok being stupid?”

“Just being me.”

They stormed off.

This web page is here to support anyone who has toxic, invalidating and

controlling people in their lives. The first most powerfully empowering

phrase is where we will start, “Just being me.” It can be used whenever a

justifier ask their enevitable “why,” “when,” “where,” “what were you

thinking,” etc. questions as they try to trap you into their unwinnable

game of justifying yourself. Try it and watch the peace come.

Blessings

“Answer not a fool according to his folly, lest you be like him yourself.

Answer a fool according to his folly, lest he be wise in his own eyes.”

Proverbs 26:4-5”